How does someone distinguish the difference between having a habit and being in love?
What is tooo much work?
Does it matter if the couple is married or not?
I have my own anwser to these questions, but I would like public opinion if you ever experienced/are experiencing a challenging relationship.True or false? - Relationships are hard work?
Answering this question requires your understanding that there are several levels to life: the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, with the spiritual level being the 'highest'. The spiritual encompasses everything. Everyone gets wrapped up in relationships as they apply to the first three levels, but don't understand the spiritual application. And it is this: relationships are for healing. Period. Yes, falling in love, having fun, and building a life together are all apart of intimate relationships, but ultimately, they are about exposing the wounds we all have deep inside which need to be healed. Love is the ultimate healer. It brings up everything UNLIKE itself. So, when people love each other and form these intimate bonds, everything that ISN'T love will come up to be addressed. All the past hurt, anger, jealousy, guilt, and shame, for example, of each person will at some point be exposed, and the couple will be forced to examine these emotions as well as the underlying issues, if they want to continue the relationship. This is a GOOD thing, because once addressed, the relationship grows stronger and the love deepens. Why are there so many divorces today? Because, quite simply, so many people do NOT want to look at, let alone process, their emotional issues. They want the easy parts: the infatuation and 'honeymoon' period at the beginning of the relationship. So, yes, intimate, loving relationships ARE work. However, the work should not induce suffering of any kind. Pain, yes, but not suffering. There is a difference. If you or your partner are suffering, it is probably because one or both of you refuse to address---through close examination and good communication----your respective issues.
In short, the ';basics'; of a relationship should ';gel';, as you wrote. There should be a fit for you both that says that you are meant to be together. But outside of this, you both should be ready to work if you want to make it last.True or false? - Relationships are hard work?
Things don't always ';gel'; together. People have a difference of opinion or the ways to handle things. So, good communication is always an attribute to any relationship.
A habit is something you do w/out thinking. Being in love is when you think about that person... when you first wake up %26amp; when you go to sleep at night.
Too much work is when differences in opinion or lifestyle make things harder than what they have to be.
Couples married or not ~ they're still together, with or w/out the piece of paper. Although married couples tend to take the relationship for granted more because it's harder to get out. They feel that because they are married there should be more of an allowance for certain activities due to the fact they are committed.
if only we lived in a perfect world, would everything ';gel';. but since there is no such creature, no relationship is ';perfect';. people break up and make up so much because they are not sure of who or what they want. sometimes they aren't compatible, but they are just used to the other person being there. just because you are used to them does not mean you love them. if people were able to distinguish between habit and love, they wouldn't break up and make up, etc, etc.
if you are not ready to work, or aren't willing to work, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. some people, unfortunately, have very low self esteem and look to another person to validate them.
Shouldn't everything just 'gel' together? If the relationship is meant to be for the most part, it will gel
Why do people breakup and makeup soo often? If you are breaking up often, move on.
How does someone distinguish the difference between having a habit and being in love? A habit is a sign of low self esteem/self worth, being in love is loving yourself--you must before you can love anyone else.
What is tooo much work? It's no longer fun-more tears of sorrow than tears of joy.
Does it matter if the couple is married or not--No.
You can work hard, or you can work smart. Relationships take smarts. If things are too hard, then you're not doing something right. Just as you can learn to read - at first it's hard, and then it gets easier until it's so easy you don't notice it anymore - you can learn to distinguish different feelings, and judge what feelings and actions are appropriate in any given situation.
Relationships are very hard work. I have a challenging one myself and sometimes I just want to kill him...but not literally. He has these ideas about things that I think are completely wrong, but I don't know how to convince him otherwise. At the end of the day, I care deeply about him and would never do anything to hurt him, much less leave him, but I can't help but seriously hate him sometimes and he makes me out to be the bad person. How does one diffuse a person like that?
Yes, relationships are VERY hard- that is why you have to make sure you really love and respect and trust someone before marrying- all relationships have there ups and downs-we are humans with issues and egos and trying to make it all comfy all the time just doesn't happen-too much work is when you are more than 50% not happy all the time and not receiving the same energy from your partner all the time-in other words, you are constantly giving more and getting less-there are times that one may give more but then other times when they take more-
TRUE. A relationship doesn't *just* work out. You have to work hard at it sometimes. There are going to be disagreements here and there. You might fight about something and get so worked up you break up...then realize why you were with the person to begin with and get back together with them. (I have had 3 long term relationships...I'm in the 3rd one now for almost 3 years) and I have never done the break up and makeup bit. If I break up with a guy, it's over. But I know some people that get so worked up it just happens.
True.
Just because everything gels, doesn't mean conflict won't arise.
If you break up more than once, you shouldn't be making up again.
Being ';in'; love is the habit. Love is what sustains the relationship after ';in'; love disappears.
Too much - when you're working it out more than it works.
This applies to all relationships.
yes its true, it takes a lot of work to make a relationship work, that seems to be a lot of peoples problems, they never realize it does and most are not willing to work at it
It is hard work. Compromise and open communication without arguments is the name of the game. When both partners are unyielding and adamant then the relationship falls apart.
Relationships are only easy if both people are naturally tolerant and have great chemistry. This is a rare occurrence and most people realize they will likely never find this situation, so they accept the fact they must work at their relationships.
They are only hard work if you get together with a loser; which most women marry or date beneath themselves. Women are taught from an early age that they are less than.
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Relationships are definitely hard work...But its worth-it
relationships are a lot of hard work. If they were so easy life with that person would be boring and there would be zero passion. Thats my opinion
yes, very hard to stay together.
Marriage is work!! its just not for everyone!
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true
it's true, you have to always do things
that will keep you connected and let them know why you
love them and how important they are in your life.
Continue to do sweet little things for each other.
keep the communication open and don't assume to
know what he is thinking or how he's feeling.
Secrets are a no-no if its about improtant issues and also
be faithful or move on.
I used to become tired of men that I was dating, and I noticed
after I was seeing my (now-husband) I was always happy to see him and couldnt wait to spend time with him, thats
when I knew that he was the one for me.
It doesnt matter is you are married or not if both
people agree about what they are looking for in a
commited relationship, just talk about it before going
into it so that each person has the same ideas about
what they expect and what the deal breaker would be.
The more you get to know each other the more you
will know if he's the one for you.
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